Defying anguish

Life is full of tragedies. If you don’t see this then you don’t see the world as it truly is. I think being positive can help us rationalize things that are otherwise perceived as nonsensical and make us otherwise feel like we’re victims of the circumstances. While this particular thought is not entirely wrong as many people are living a reality that forces them to be victims of their circumstances. However, thinking of ourselves as helpless victims as a general way of explaining bad occurrences not only forces us to surrender to obstacles presented our way but also deprives us from the capacity of having power over our destiny. This leads to being ultimately unable to process grief in a healthy way.

Some people think that positivity is denying the existence of anguish and pain when this in itself is a dangerous thought that separates us from the essence of being a complex and more importantly empathetic human. Positivity isn’t necessarily manifested in feeling good about the process it takes for one to reach internal balance, but to rather understand that this process is necessary, which means that grief is necessary and that it is not synonymous to weakness. But then of course, we can only try and apply this to ourselves and certainly not to other people or people who are very close to us going through challenging times that demand a great lot of both external and internal strength. If you’re a sensitive human, you might feel gradually worse seeing those external sources of tragedy around you evolve into something you can neither quite comprehend nor have power over changing. But I think we must understand and have peace with the fact that world can’t and won’t adjust itself to our own convenience. The world will continue to present itself in its raw format that functions in people’s lives differently according to THEIR version of reality. It is not saying that we should not be aware of other people’s struggles, as awareness is an absolute key in any circumstance. But only we as individuals can find that balance between what we let and won’t let have impact in our lives. Truth is, as repetitive as this may sound, after darkness comes light. But only if we allow it to. Or further more, to actively seek it, create it, be it, and to kindly share it with another without imposing it on another. Up to a certain extent, every person choses what thoughts they allow into their lives, whether subconsciously or fully aware.